TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.

 Everybody wants to be emotionally and physically close to each other.life always seems better when shared.Relationships like most of the things on earth requires effort.Think of it this way even good relationship take work.Toxic relationship is characterized toxic traits like controlling behaviours,frequent lying and so many.

I didn't know the existence of toxic relationship until my uni friend went through it.When we joined first year he met this 4th year guy who they really fell in love .

During the first month , they move in together.She told me ,she knew from the day she met him that he was probably not the right man for her,but she was really attracted.

Six months ,it  received the first verbal and emotional abuse and started to become a way of life.This guy was not there for he emotionally but he was only there for pleasure.He would even get angry at times and slap her.She left him the first time but ended up going back because she had very little resources to survive on her own.She left again and come back.She didn't know what the hell was wrong with her once she left ,it wouldn't be long before she felt like she made a mistake,feels guilty ,manipulated and convinced that they could have so much together.

She was awake to the knowledge that he will never change! because she's human and she needs a human connection.She needed emotional support but he wouldn't bother to provide.

There's nothing wrong with you for going back,you are trauma bounded to him and it's so hard to break.It is like literally coming out off a drug when that bound is broken.Also you see hope , potential and have empathy -all human qualities despite seeing the red flags.

So get real with yourself,this can be the hardest thing to do when you truly care about the other person and learn to communicate your needs and set your boundaries unapologetically.If you have decided to leave,get  yourself a good therapist so that he/she will guide you not to again despite all the guilt .